Divorce – Some Thoughts

There has been much talk of the rise in divorce rates. The last half century saw the number of divorcing couples multiply dramatically. But why are divorce rates so much higher now? There are many reasons for this generally trend, some of which this article will explore.

One of the reasons is that it is far easier to get divorced these days. Changes in family law has made it much simpler. The most significant change in the law is that a couple can now get divorced in a ‘no fault divorce’. This means that neither party is said to be specifically to blame for the interruption of the relationship. This means that there does not need to become a specific reason, such as unreasonable behaviour by one person.

It isn’t just a change in family law that make divorce easier these days, it’s a change is society’s attitude towards divorce. There used to become a stigma attached to divorce, whereby it was looked down upon by many people. These days (partly because of the number of divorces) it isn’t a big deal. You’re not made to feel like a failure if you’ve been in an unsuccessful marriage. People won’t hold it against you the manner in which they may have made in the past.

But…

As is elsewhere in Canada, divorce in BC is of two kinds. Firstly, there is the Joint Action Divorce in which you ask the court for a divorce order jointly. In such a case it is necessary in order to both of you to be agreement with all elements of the divorce. Secondly, there is the Sole Action Divorce which in turn can be Defended Divorce or Undefended Divorce. If it is undefended it means you asked your partner for a divorce and he/she agrees to it in every way. In the defended divorce, you ask your mate for a divorce but he/she disagrees with the conditions of divorce or the divorce action altogether. You should seek your divorce in the town or county where you or your spouse happens to reside.

But, there’s so much more to consider.

It is necessary for you to ask for divorce in the shire or city where either of the spouses is a resident. There are some action to be taken care of to start the divorce process. At first the writ or summons should be properly filled and submit it with your marriage certificate and the state of the claim. You have to then complete a Registration of Divorce Proceedings after obtaining the same from the court. Your divorce proceedings are truly on after paying the registry filling fee. When these steps are complete, it is essential for you to serve your divorce papers on your spouse. However do not do it yourself.

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In an undefended divorce, you can obtain a divorce order without appearing in court. But you need to produce a few additional documents with the Supreme Court Registry. You have to pay a right for the application. If you do not understand any portion of the material it is best to seek legal help. Time for processing your divorce papers for a divorce in BC depends on the complexity of the case. This may last up to 5 months. If the court determines you deserve a divorce, a divorce order will be given to you.

To get a divorce in BC, it is essential to pay the prescribed fees to ask for the divorce order. Additional fees are also required to swear every affidavit, certificate of divorce or certified divorce order. A fee is necessary if you wish to change your name once the divorce is granted. All such fees are beyond the cost of forms, lawyer’s fees and process server’s fees. You can pay these fees with a credit/debit card, money order or by a cashier’s check.

The role of man and women within a marriage has changed over the years. In the past the man was generally considered the breadwinner who went out to work while his wife stayed at home and looked after the children. This has changed a great deal over time and there are no more specific roles in this way. When someone entered a marriage they used to almost fall into these roles. Now different people have different expectation of a marriage. These expectations may vary for the man and woman and this may cause conflict.

It is now apparent that the divorce rate in first marriages probably peaked at about 40 percent for first marriages around 1980 and has been decreasing since to about 30% in the early 2000s. This is a dramatic difference. Rather than view marriage as a 50-50 shot in the dark it can be seen as a having 70% likelihood of succeeding. But even to use that sort of generalization, I.e., one simple statistic for all marriages, grossly distorts what is actually going on.

People (and especially women) tend to be more independent now days. A married couple may have separate lives in some ways, such as work and their social lives. Therefore their lifestyles may vary. The less they have in common the more they’re likely to drift apart. They are likewise more likely to meet somebody else.

Education and employment can have a big impact on a marriage. Statistics show that women with a strong quality education are more likely to get divorced. This is likely to be attributed to the employment opportunities that this leads to. Work brings stress. If both halves of a marriage are working then there may be more stress within the home. It also means that each individual is financially independent, so finance can only be as much of an issue if the couple were to divorce. This means they’re less likely to stay together just because they cannot afford not to. More working women are believed to be why the divorce rates have increased so dramatically in China and India recently.

Religion may also be a reason for divorce rates increasing, or at least lack of religion. Within many religions divorce is deemed wrong. And these days less people have the strong religious beliefs that may keep them from getting divorced.

So there are many reasons that may have contributed towards the sharp increase in divorce rates in recent times. This by no means covers all reason for divorce. However, they’re some of the variation in society that have occurred over the last half century that may have contributed.